And really, to be in a healthy relationship, you first need to have a healthy relationship with yourself, so this is a win-win, any way you choose to look at it. This is such a tough one for so many of us, especially when we fall into the trap of needing external validation. We want our man to validate us, to make us feel like we have worth and are valuable.
But the problem is, it doesn't really work that way. It's actually something you need to bring with you to a relationship.
He may test you on this — maybe without even realizing it. If, on the other hand, you show him by your words and actions that you do, in fact, have high standards for yourself, he'll look at you as having high worth and value as a person. And that's the kind of woman he wants to commit to for life. This goes back to the differences between men and women. Women want their guy to put them up on a pedestal, profess their undying love to them, cherish their very essence, and make it known they are the only woman they'll ever love.
If you do this to most men, they'll start to lose interest. Yes, men love a heartfelt compliment here and there and they love knowing you're thinking about them and care about them, but make sure to keep that little playful distance so he knows he could lose you at any time. He needs to feel there are plenty of other men out there who would scoop you up in a heartbeat if he's not careful. This isn't meant to be a jealousy thing, so you have to be careful here. The mindset you need to have is that you are more than worthy, very desirable, and he's lucky to have you.
He also needs to know he must continue winning you over just to keep your beautiful heart. If you have this mindset, it's going to come through in everything you say and do, and the effect will be him continuing to chase after you.
And guess what? Just take a moment to connect, eye-to-eye, and share looks with one another. Look him in the eye with a smile or a playful expression, and hold his gaze for three seconds. He may be your boyfriend or husband now, but he still deserves to feel special.
One key to a lasting relationship is to give your partner a million happy little moments with you, and he should do the same in return. After all, studies show that a happy marriage seems to come down to how much kindness exists between the partners. This article was originally published with the Good Men Project. We're having a conversation about what it means to be a good man in the 21st century. Care to join us? Find us on Facebook , and Twitter. Take these super-sweet tips and have him blushing with warm fuzzies in no time.
Compliment him. Tell him you appreciate what he does for you and your family. Make time for things to get hot in the bedroom. Be supportive of his alone time. Put down your phone. When you get something for yourself, get something for him, too. Picking up a coffee? Grab him one! They want to reach out for connection in difficult times. You can see where this is headed: When both partners are stressed out, if one of them copes by withdrawing and the other copes by talking….
Women feel shut down, invalidated or rejected by their partners in the moments when they need them the most. I discussed this dynamic recently with a male marriage counselor to get his perspective on how to improve couples communication during times of stress. Here were his tips for couples communication during stressful times. When in doubt, start there. However, all men are different. Some men feel the deepest connection through sexuality.
For others, the height of emotional connection is through conversation, time together, or acts of service. All romance starts and ends with paying attention to the other person's feelings, and showing them that you love them in ways that are tailor made to be meaningful to them. Aren't sure how your man feels most loved?
Ask him! But never forget that men crave romance and connection just as much as women do, even if they experience it differently. Take the time to figure out what's most meaningful to your most important person. If this sounds like a lot of work, consider that a wonderful side benefit of romancing your man is that when you do, you're much more likely to have romantic energy coming back to you, too.
It's effortless to love when we feel loved, isn't it? Be the change you wish to see in your relationship! Lisa Marie Bobby. It's just a starting point, but it can open the door to great things for both of you.
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